Hate Is a Pointless Emotion

Conrad Veidt, Favorite Quote Friday

If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is a part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us.

~Hermann Hesse

Welcome to another edition of Favorite Quote Friday, everyone.  I know, I was supposed to get rid of this weekly post and give it its own blog, but I’ve changed my mind.  I decided to keep it and change the picture I use for it. (Which is of my German flavor of the month Conrad Veidt, by the way.)

Today’s quote comes from another German, Hermann Hesse, who, like Veidt, was married to a Jewish woman and fiercely opposed the Nazis.

Do you agree with what he said?  Do you think that if you hate another person, then there must be something inside yourself that is loathsome?

What he said makes sense.  Hate is a pointless emotion.  It does not change anything in a situation, or life in general. All it does is cause misery and destruction.  The Nazis hated Jews, Occultists, Socialists, and everyone else they deemed a political suspect.  All that hate and cold-blooded murder accomplished nothing.

They hated people for who they were and what they looked like.  Hitler wanted people to believe that the more than six million Jews he murdered were inferior to the rest of the human race in some way.  However, the Jews have shown the world again and again what geniuses they are in every field imaginable.  Is there anything they cannot do?  That does not smack of inferiority to me.

The real issue is what Hesse was talking about when he said that our hatred for others stemmed from something inside ourselves:  Hitler hated the Jews’ supposed inferiority, but even tiny amount of research will show that there is no inferiority.  The problem was that Hitler was ashamed of his own inferiority.  He failed as a military leader, an artist, and most everything else he set out to do, so instead of just accepting the fact that he was a loser, he went on a genocidal rampage.

Hate is destructive and ugly.  It does nothing but stop progress and make us look like jerks.

Instead of focusing on the people and things we hate, we should instead focus on the people and things we love.  Passion can move mountains.  It can build cities, cure diseases, and invent any number of things that help move society forward.

So if you are wasting your time hating another person, it is not too late to stop.  The hatred you feel is not worth all the stress, ulcers, and wrinkles you are giving yourself…is it?


Who or What Is Really in Control of Your Day?

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Either you run the day or the day runs you

~Jim Rohn

The above quote  from Jim Rohn is something I need to remember—it’s something we all probably need to remember, is it not?  If we do not take control of our days and make things happen, we cannot expect things to go our way, can we?

So who or what is really in control of your day?

Do you wake up in the morning and decide that it is going to be a good day, and that you are going to do everything you have on your agenda?  Or do you just “go with the flow” and take life as it comes?  If you lean more toward the latter, are you really getting everything you want out of life?  If you are, good for you!  If you are not, perhaps it is time you start with a plan…and stick to it.

It all begins with positive thinking

English: Think positive

Think positive (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Something positive can happen during even the worst situations you can imagine.  For instance, if you are in a car accident and you lose use of your limbs (or lose your limbs completely), but you still have your life, you should be grateful.  You can still wake up and see the sun shine for at least one more day.  You still have the opportunity to make a difference in the world, even if it is a small one.

All you have to do is find the proverbial silver lining.

The next time you are faced with a difficult situation, do your best to think positive thoughts.  You will be surprised at what a difference positive thinking can make in a negative situation.

It is all up to YOU

If you are simply waiting for something good to happen, you are going to be waiting for a mighty long time, my friend.  Once you dream up something, you have to put those thoughts into action.  Nobody else is going to do it for you.  It is all up to you.

And if you want things to run smoothly, you have to put those actions into a manageable plan.   Sure, there are some things you can do impulsively, but overall, it is better to plan out your life.  I learned from years of experience that careful planning goes a long way.

And remember the late Jim Rohn’s words:  Either you run the day or the day runs you.

YOU are in the driver’s seat in life.  Do not let anyone or anything control the wheel for you.

Out with the Bad and In with the Good

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Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.

~Mark Twain

Happy Friday to all!  It’s time for another edition of Favorite Quote Friday, a weekly series dedicated to motivational and inspirational quotes from a variety of sources.   This is one of my favorite days to post on this blog and I hope that it is one of your favorite days to read it!

Mark Twain photo portrait.

Mark Twain photo portrait. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Today’s quote comes from world-famous author and humorist Mark Twain.  Mark was born Samuel Langhorne Clemens in the tiny town of Florida, Missouri (it’s so tiny its current population is zero), and grew up in nearby Hannibal, Missouri.  Today he is most famous for his novels The Adventures of Tom Sawyer and The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn.  But if you come up here to Missouri and take a day trip to Hannibal, you will find that we know him as something more than just a published author and funny guy.  He was also pilot of a steamboat that went up and down the muddy Mississippi.  If you go to Hannibal and take a ride on the steamboat, they will tell you all about it. (more…)

Are You Setting Yourself Up for Failure? Try This One Simple Thing to Guarantee Success!

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By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail

~Benjamin Franklin

Hello my darlings! It’s Friday, so that means the weekend is almost here and it’s time for another edition of Favorite Quote Friday!

Jean-Baptiste Greuze portrait of Benjamin Fran...

Jean-Baptiste Greuze portrait of Benjamin Franklin used on the $100 bill from 1929 until 1993. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Today’s quote comes from a man we all know and love—that sassy ladies’ man and Founding Father Benjamin Franklin.  I think—and you can correct me if I’m wrong—that out of all this nation’s founders old Benji is probably the most  quoted, and it should be obvious why.  He was always short and to the point, and extremely wise.  Did you know that “Honesty is the best policy,” “Time is money,” and “A place for everything, everything in its place” were all first uttered by him?

I could go on all day rattling off Benji quotes, but today I am just going to focus on one, and it is worth repeating:  “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”  That makes sense, doesn’t it?  If you set goals and don’t do anything to prepare for them, you are going to fail.  There’s no getting around it.  You have to put in a little time and effort.  You can’t honestly believe that things are going to come to you if you just sit there and think about it, do you?  That would be a nice special power to have, but, alas, it is not realistic.

Are you setting yourself up for failure by having big dreams but not having a plan to reach your goals?  Stop dong that to yourself!  And stop expecting others to automatically lavish you with praise or money or some other perk if you have not done one ounce of preparation.

If you want to be successful and reach your goals in life you only have to do one thing: have a plan and follow through with it.  That is all there is to it.


Success (Photo credit: Jeff Hester)

Take my blog, for instance.  I know that it probably does not seem like it, but I do plan and prepare my posts most of the time.  There are times that I just type whatever off the top of my head, but most of the time, I prepare.

I start out by putting an idea on my editorial calendar and giving it a deadline.  Once I finish that, I write out the first draft.  After the draft is finished, I read through it and correct any errors in spelling and grammar.  Then I read it aloud to make sure it sounds right.  Finally, I add pictures and links, and then click publish.  I prepared my post and I consider it a small success just to click the publish button and have my drivel go live for all to see.  It’s an even bigger success when people like that drivel.

I guarantee success will come knocking at your door if you just roll your sleeves up and come up with a plan to meet your goals.  Don’t expect it to come to you overnight.  It rarely does.  It might take weeks, it might take years, but you will be a success at whatever you set your mind to if you prepare!

Do you have any advice you would like to give someone on how to reach their goals?  Sound off by leaving a comment below.  Share your story!

Find Your Passion and Fall in Love with Your Life

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The essence of life is finding something you really love and then making the daily experience worthwhile.
~Denis Waitley

Last week on Favorite Quote Friday, I talked about living out of your imagination, and paid some last respects to motivational speaker Stephen Covey.  This week’s quote, from another motivational speaker and self-help author, Denis Waitley, is all about finding your passion and using it in your daily life. (more…)

Are You Living Out of Your Imagination?

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Live out of your imagination, not your history

~Stephen Covey

Stephen Covey was a best-selling author and motivational speaker who died earlier this week from complications after a fall he took back in April.  He was a Mormon, and held a lot of views that I didn’t agree with (his stance against gay marriage was one of them), but his line “live out of your imagination, not your history” really struck a chord with me.


Imagination (Photo credit: four12)

We often base most things  we do on past experiences.  For instance, if we try a dish from a certain type of cuisine, and we don’t like it, we automatically assume that everything that falls under that group is inedible.  Do we really know that we are going to dislike everything that’s on the menu if we haven’t bothered trying it?  No, of course not.  And if you think you do, then you are kidding yourself.  You never know unless you try. (more…)

Who Are You Taking for Granted?

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We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.

~Cynthia Ozick

Who or what in your life are you taking for granted?  This is something that we humans often do—whether we want to admit it or not.

Usually it is a parent, or a sibling, or maybe a grandparent.  The people we take advantage of are related to us in one way or another, and we expect them to do things for us, or simply “be there”,  just because….

What happens when that person is no longer around to help us out?  They leave town or they leave this life, and the only thing we really have to cling to are memories of how they selflessly gave their time and energy to us.  What did you give them in return?  Can you reflect on this and honestly say that you give as much as you get from your loved ones?  I know I can’t, and I regret it. (more…)

You Will Always Be Unhappy as Long as You Cling to Negative Thoughts

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When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.

~Helen Keller (1880-1968)

Have you ever had one of those days (or weeks, or months, or years) where nothing seems to go right for you?  Everything you say, do, or even think brings on more trouble.  It makes you want to run away to the hills where no one can find you—or at the very least go to a quiet room in your house and lock the door, refusing all contact with the outside world.  If you are all by yourself, you are less likely to get into any trouble.

And there may be times that everything is going well, but one small negative event happens that changes your outlook on everything.  Sure, there are a lot of positive, happy things you can get out of the experience, but it was all ruined by the one bad thing.

Or was it?

Instead of focusing on the negative thing that closed the “door of happiness”, shouldn’t you instead go out and look for the door that has been opened for you?

As long as you cling to the negative, it stands to reason that things will continue going on a downward spiral.  You are inviting negativity into your life.  You expect it to happen, so it’s going to happen.  Makes sense, doesn’t it?

Take those negative thoughts and turn them into an opportunity to correct mistakes or start a new project.  Do something useful with them.  You will be amazed at the positive results you get.

Have you ever been given the opportunity to turn the negative into the positive?  How did that work out for you?  Let me know by leaving a comment below!

My Top 10 Favorite Quotes from America-Hating Godless Heathens

favorite quoteIf you were to list 10 of your favorite quotes, which ones would you choose?  I’m sure they are quotes that inspire you to act in some way, or at least make you feel some sort of emotion.

My top 10 favorite quotes are from people who made history by questioning the American political system, and how we treat people in this society.  There are more than a few people (usually those who lean toward the right side of the political spectrum) who consider them anti-American and godless, even though that is not always the case.

Are your favorite quotes among them?

10.)  “Laws: We know what they are, and what they are worth! They are spider webs for the rich and mighty, steel chains for the poor and weak, fishing nets in the hands of the government.”

~Pierre Joseph Proudhon, French politician, activist, and widely believed to be the first person to call himself an “Anarchist”. (1809-1865)

9.)  “When great changes occur in history, when great principles are involved, as a rule the majority are wrong.”

~Eugene V. Debs, union leader, creator of the Industrial Workers of the World (IWW), and Socialist politician. (1855-1926)

8.)  “History does nothing; it does not possess immense riches, it does not fight battles. It is men, real, living, who do all this.”

~Karl Marx, German philosopher, writer, and economist.  (1818-1883)

7.)  “If voting changed anything, they’d make it illegal.”

~Emma Goldman, Russian-born Anarchist and political activist.  (1869-1940)

6.)  “I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do, because I notice it always coincides with their own desires.”

~Susan B. Anthony, teacher and activist best known for her role in the early women’s rights movement.  (1820-1906)

5.)  “Even the most wretched individual of our present society could not exist and develop without the cumulative social efforts of countless generations.”

~Mikhail Bakunin, Russian Anarchist and philosopher.  (1814-1876)

4.)   “Woman must not accept; she must challenge. She must not be awed by that which has been built up around her; she must reverence that woman in her which struggles for expression.”

~Margaret Sanger, nurse and activist best known for founding Planned Parenthood.  (1879-1966)

3.)  “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.”

~Helen Keller, first deaf and blind person to be awarded a bachelor’s degree, activist, and founding member of the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU).  (1880-1968)

2.)  “You never need an argument against the use of violence, you need an argument for it.”

~Noam Chomsky, American Linguist, historian, professor at MIT for more than 50 years, and activist. (1928-)

1.)  “How  can you have a war on terrorism when war itself is terrorism?”

~Howard Zinn, historian, professor, activist, and author best known for A People’s History of the United States:  1492-Present.  (1922-2010)

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